Leafing Home? (ha, love to spell meh way)

[shinotenshi]

Well, I'm in a huge lil bitch fit right now and well...I'm going to be leaving home as soon as I can...lots of family problems and other things going on so it may be for the best...

I just kind of want to know how many of you live at home, have your own home, stay at a dorm, live with another loved one or were kicked out, things like that, you get the general idea don't you, well just share your stories and what not, I shall be looking forward to some good posts *nods to this*

[alysren]

I live at home. With my parents. And my brothers. And my sisters. I like it.

But I'll like it even better when I move out.

You're not going to run away, are you? Because that constitutes as "as soon as i can" and that's not so smart, man.

My family gets along rather well, but sometimes they piss me off and then I go off into my room and sniffle pathetically for a few hours and get over it. Sometimes I can't believe I'm stuck with such imbeciles until I go to college. (If I even DO go to college. Whoa, getting cocky there Shannon, ja?) But this is my family and I didn't choose it but I'll have to live with it until I'm 18.

Sometimes I comfort myself into fantasizing scenarios in which I go all the way to England. Cambridge. Oxford. New York State University. Hell, even a Tenessee State U. AS FAR AS MY PARENTS AS POSSIBLE, and yeah, tenessee is a long hard drive from Cali. It'll be cool. People say stuff like, "hey y'all, ain't it byootiful? sempt kind of hot yesterday, eh? i gotter go shoot the cow now." or.. whatever they say in the southeast.

but sometimes it seems that ANYTHING is better than here, in california, where i've spent my life ever since I can remember. I'm going to throw up at the thought of staying here for the rest of my life.

Aww, you asked for a good post and I just made it into sentimental reflections. sorry bout that. You're not the only one who has family problems and want to leave home "ASAP", though! I'm not sure if my need is on the scale of yours, but hey, it happens everywhere.

[shinotenshi]

You're not going to run away, are you? Because that constitutes as "as soon as i can" and that's not so smart, man.

Aww, you asked for a good post and I just made it into sentimental reflections. sorry bout that. You're not the only one who has family problems and want to leave home "ASAP", though! I'm not sure if my need is on the scale of yours, but hey, it happens everywhere.

lol I don't run from my problems, when I came home for school today I had a little fight with my mother (just the usual crap) and decided to face what I knew she was going to drag up anyway, she brought up school and how she didn't want me around anymore so I told her if things weren't better by June or by July then I was gone, she agreed to it and seemed a lot more happy after that, and I do know I'm not the only one who has family problems but when you live in this type of family all you can dream about is being gone and free from them (it hurts when even your closest sibling starts to tell you how much they hate you and wish you were dead) I'm sick of being a 'dissapointment' to my family and how they look or act towards me when I do my best but it isn't good enough...like ya said, it happens everywhere, I'm just tired of letting it happen here in what I used to call home.

[JFA_bobguy]

I live at home with my mom and sister, who always manage to pick out some trivial matter and fight about it (usually my sister does the fighting). I go to college, can't afford to stay in dorms so I drive to school, and it isn't cheap. Once I make enough money to get a good CA house (which is way too expensive) I'm moving out...still wondering whether I should go for a bachelor's or master's degree. Who knows. But I live with my mom and sister.

[Jackal]

i live at home with my family, theres stuff like fighting between siblings and there is almost no privacy, kinda sucks actually, but free food and lodging is nice

[Hotaru]

I like with my mom and my dad. My brother goes to college so he only comes during the summer, or winter/spring break.

Nobody at my house ever gets along. -.-

[raine]

I live at home with my mom, dad, and sister. There have been way too many times I've wanted to pack up my stuff and run off to anywhere that would take me in that it isn't even funny anymore. You would wonder that by being dropped off at the police station and told to stay there when you were nine and that being beaten raw all the time for the stupidest things meant : get away from here, wouldn't you? It doesn't come off as running away to me, it comes off as being smart and knowing where you aren't wantend. There would be ones who say "you've got a roof over your head and a computer with decent internet service, so shut your whining" but knowing that none of this was for you, but for your perfect sister (my dad said so) and knowing that the roof you're staying under doesn't want you there doesn't quite help the situation. The only thing stopping me from running off is that I have no where to go.

[alysren]

That's so uncool. When I have my own kids I'll huggle and love them to death and never tell them to get out. *daydreams*

[ACXchan]

My situation is a sweet set up. I live in a nice spacious apartment all by myself with a kitchen, TV, laundry room next door, garage for my car, and a DSL connection. You should all be jealous of me. You should all donate money to me so I can actually pay the rent. The place is in a simple middle class urban area but the rent, considered "normal" in San Francisco, is outrageous so by this summer I shall be losing my spacious apartment and moving back in with family in Los Angeles n.n

I don't advise people to live on their own if they can't be self-sufficient, ie. washing the dishes when needed, buying groceries when necessary, doing the laundry on a time schedule so you don't always run into a full laundry room, paying rent on time, etc.

[skye_eiden]

well.. it's either pay for your own pad or get your parents to pay for it.. or pay for boarding school? ;_; kinda sad. I'm somewhat attached to my family.. even if sometimes they are really abusive I dunno, I still feel like I have a sense of uh (oh darn. i only know how to say it in filipino XD) like I owe them something? (okay.. not too good a translation). more like gratitude.

well... if it will make the situation right it is actually a good idea - give some space for the parents and the child. Perhaps it will also make the two parties miss each other and realize their worth ei? :) But have you tried talking to another relative who might help you patch up with your mom?

[kokochiyoi]

I live at home with my parents I like to live with my parents but I must confess I'd rather live on my own, I lived on my own 3 months in Belgium (different country and far from Spain) and I just loved the independence, you know you don't have to give explanations about what you do and you don't all the time, I loved living in Belgium.
Last summer I had to work in hotel aroun 300miles far from home and I lived in a small apartment with my best friend (she worked with me as well) It was THE BEST SUMMER OF MY LIFE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!I went whetever the hell I wanted to go at the time I felt like and my mom wasn't nagging me about my bed not being made!!!!Oh yes...about cleaning...I must confess we had a mess of an apartment but we did not really cared much. I think I'm such a independence person and I love so much independence.
Can't wait to leave home next year! :)

[Pikachu]

I still live at home. :) But I would probablymoveto a dorm this coming september, but not because of family problems, but because it takes too long to get to my university from my house. It takes me ~2 hours, by public transit. And I hate waking up at 5 for a 9:00 class... sooo I really want to live somewhere near my school

[shinotenshi]

I live at home with my mom, dad, and sister. There have been way too many times I've wanted to pack up my stuff and run off to anywhere that would take me in that it isn't even funny anymore. You would wonder that by being dropped off at the police station and told to stay there when you were nine and that being beaten raw all the time for the stupidest things meant : get away from here, wouldn't you? It doesn't come off as running away to me, it comes off as being smart and knowing where you aren't wantend. There would be ones who say "you've got a roof over your head and a computer with decent internet service, so shut your whining" but knowing that none of this was for you, but for your perfect sister (my dad said so) and knowing that the roof you're staying under doesn't want you there doesn't quite help the situation. The only thing stopping me from running off is that I have no where to go.

I know exactly how you feel...I'm glad I'm not the only one who has these type of problems (and somone dear to me here can tell you that its the truth) the only thing stopping me from 'running off' as you put it is, I need dear time to switch all personal connections.


Perhaps it will also make the two parties miss each other and realize their worth ei? But have you tried talking to another relative who might help you patch up with your mom?

I wont be missing any of my family, it hurt the day she told me but last night when I came home from a little escapade we talked and I told her how I really felt consisting of the words 'it hurt yesterday but today it dosen't at all, I wont be telling you where I'm going but so you know, you won't be able to find me even if you try.' I went to bed and it was left as that.

[dark angel]

I live in a studio apartment by myself. I moved out when I went to college and only came home for a summer or two.

The thing about my family is, b/c they're divorced, if I was really upset with one, I just moved in with the other family.

When I graduate in May I'll live with my family for a few months to get myself on my feet then I am moving to New York and living with my brother and my boyfriend.

Living on your own is the best thing for someone to go from young adult to adult. Between all the hassles of landlords, rent, bills out the ass, laundry, food, cooking, etc, you really learn everything about adulthood. It's an amazing experience, but you need to be able to afford it. And that HAS to be hard while still in High School.

Good luck hun, I hope it works out, independence and a house that respects you are some of the most important things there are.

[shinotenshi]

Dark Angel :: Thank you and I agree that those are the most important, well other then a bit of comfort. It sounds as if you've had it tough yourself and in dealing with it, its made you a better person. *hugs*

[skye_eiden]

well before you do go, I guess the best thing to do is to become self-reliant and know where to go when you leave. There's cleaning and cooking and other jobs. Also you have to know where to get an actual job when worse comes to worst. I'm sorry if this isnt much of a help ;_; im not really familiar with a situation like this before. *hugs* though in any case, I wish you the best

[shinotenshi]

I've been that way for a long time now, guess I was really just waiting for the day she would tell me (althou she's done told me many times before) and don't worry about anything, Still dear ol' Shino here :foxy: its not like I'm going to change any.*hugs back* thanx for your wishes but don't go getting all sad and teary eyed on me just yet lol

[Kyreii]

Heya, leaving home? That's my dream. Yeah, actually, it's just my dad who pisses me off...

[kyrien]

Hmm I live in an apartment with three other friends. We decided to live off campus this year. It's a bit annoying when dishes build up or someone makes a mess on the stove and leaves it for me to clean up... Yes, I make a mess too, but I'm also the one who cleans the kitchen (the only one thus far despite someone else's suggest that we take turns and be good about it --;;;;; ). Then again, I expected this when I signed the lease so I'm not too upset, just kinda irked.

Anyway, I don't hate my family, but sometimes my mom just gets on my nerves with all her nagging and random accusations, and insistance that the house is cleaned once every 4 days, and that I should believe in God and study the Bible, and that I must be playign too many games at school. I ask her about how to cook something and she somehow twists that into asking about how my job search is going and how I need to find a job so that I can get health insurance, and how I HAVE to graduate this term. I would very much like to live by myself, close to home is okay, too, just want to be by myself or with my sisters. It really isn't that hard to keep an apartment clean, but it gets discouraging when things get messy again soon after you clean. It's like, "why bother?"

[Star of Sorrow]

I live in dorms currently, but I'll be moving into an apartment probably this summer or early before the school starts up again in the fall.

I live with my mom, mainly, but we fight all the time, so I tend to prefer to stay with my father, since we get along a lot better. *shrug*

[afterglow]

meh...i currently live at home with both parents and a sister...and i'm moving into a dorm in five months(exactly; i've had a countdown going since a bit before christmas). i'm excited to leave, but it's not because i hate my family; it's that i'm ready to live elsewhere... this is not to say that i get along with my family either. i really only get along with my mom, but my father and sister are tolerable...most of the time.

part of the reason i enjoy being home is because i live in the basement, so if i don't want to see or hear anyone i simply go downstairs, close the door, and pretend the basement is my own apartment. :nod:

[shinotenshi]

wish I could do that...the only thing I can do is go outside use the cell and call a friend, go out to their house (I get along with their parents better then my own and have known most of my friends parents before I knew them) and crash all night, go home in the early mornings and then its all good cuz I go to school after about 2 hours of sleep.

[kokochiyoi]

shino sweetie hahaha that's not fun, i remember that this summer while I was working I had to work every saturday afternoon, so after working I ran to dress up and went out until 8am and I had to work at 10am....I HATED sundays lol!

[shinotenshi]

^^; Yes I know but, its a lot better then being at home...its so bad now that I can actually be doing my work and what not, and my little bro or sister will start shit with me...I'd just rather not be at home at all...

[~lofo~]

still living at home...quite unbelievable actually, i always thought i'd move out once i turn 18 ^.^

but i'll soon be on my own, when we move back to the us, i'll be staying with my parents for about a year and then go off to seattle to study, alone in a dome... *creepy*

[licey]

I live at home, but I've thought of running away many times. In fact, once, I even started packing. Then my mom caught me =_= Generally, though, my home situation isn't bad, but I'd definitely want to live on my own. I remember I stayed at my friend's place with another friend for like a week in summer break... <3333 those were kick-ass days. My mom tends to get worried a lot, though, so I don't get a chance to do things like that very often u_u

[shinotenshi]

aw...that sucks...I know what that feels like...I'm lucky if my mum lets me go to the festivities with out giving me the 3rd degree...

[kokochiyoi]

Right now I CAN'T even leave home to go to my friend's, I injuried my ankle and I can't actually walk SNIFF SNIFFFFFFFF pity meeee

[shinotenshi]

aww poor Koko! *hugs* I know your pain, I've hurt my knee (big ow!) and couldn't go any where for the longest time...but then I got fed up and just left XD I was in deep Sh!t that day

[Kinael]

The best thing living away from home is no one will tell you your room is messy / dirty. Just make sure none of your housemates / landlord / whoever come in.

[shinotenshi]

lol sounds...eh, fun..messy rooms...*looks at hers quickly* its not that bad if you just pick up the papers and vacume....cute avvy...lmao

[~lofo~]

geez koko! what did you get into this time! ^^ [hands over a get-better-ballon and lots of chocolates] hehe

man i know how that feels, about a half a year ago i sprained my ankle in sport. looked pretty crooked then :-/ and hurt like the devil!!

[kokochiyoi]

aww poor Koko! *hugs* I know your pain, I've hurt my knee (big ow!) and couldn't go any where for the longest time...but then I got fed up and just left XD I was in deep Sh!t that day

poor poor me sniff *hugs back* thank ya! I think i'll go crazy if I dont get out soon!! lol

geez koko! what did you get into this time! ^^ [hands over a get-better-ballon and lots of chocolates] hehe

man i know how that feels, about a half a year ago i sprained my ankle in sport. looked pretty crooked then :-/ and hurt like the devil!!

Running in the park, for once I decide to go running and I ACTUALLY go running...I injuried my ankle SNIFF SNIFF THANKS FOR ALL THE CHOCOLATES!!!!*invites everyone**hugs* thank yaaa ^^

[licey]

aww, I feel your pain. I sprained my ankle while jumping from the stairs before ;_; I was home alone, too >_<

[fernie]

I live in a house with an aunt and my siblings. Sometimes [quite often this lately] I make a visit to my parents' and relatives' in another province and stay with them until holiday's over. I used to spend half a year in a private dorm, sharing a room with some fellows from school, as the campus was too far from the house.

I've been thinking a lot about moving out, but I know it perfectly well that it's impossible. My family is Chinese overseas and they seem to stick to the old tradition very much. Besides, I know I can never bring up the topic of 'moving out' to a talk because no one would support a female family member to live on her own, anyway.

[shinotenshi]

that's not fair...but I guess that if there was a good reason behind not letting 'her' live by herself.

[kokochiyoi]

...I know I can never bring up the topic of 'moving out' to a talk because no one would support a female family member to live on her own, anyway.

Sounds odd for me because I've been grown up under another culture, and sometimes I can't understand it. Why is it so weird for your family? :/

[shinotenshi]

I believe it is the issue of an independent female (the worries of if she'll be ok, if she's hurt, how she's doing, will she make the family proud with out the family's guidence and what not).

[kokochiyoi]

I believe it is the issue of an independent female (the worries of if she'll be ok, if she's hurt, how she's doing, will she make the family proud with out the family's guidence and what not).

but I suppose that applies for every single culture doesn't it?

[shinotenshi]

Yeah actually...but my culture actually revolves around finding a fighter for the woman or him proving himself worty for her, it's just one big mess I say.

[Kyreii]

I WANT TO PARTY!!! And I can't leave home.. ;( Summer sucks... I party more during the schoolyear...

[kokochiyoi]

I WANT TO PARTY!!! And I can't leave home.. ;( Summer sucks... I party more during the schoolyear...

really? ain't supposed to be summer when you have more time to party out?

[AnguishedBlade]

I can't leave home because...

1. I'm only 16.

2. I'm afraid I'll burn my own apartment.

3. I'm a mama's boy.

[shinotenshi]

XD that's...um, nice of you to actually admit lmao

[kokochiyoi]

I can't leave home because...

1. I'm only 16.

2. I'm afraid I'll burn my own apartment.

3. I'm a mama's boy.

LOL! you are afraid you'll burn your own apartment lol...poor neighbours....make sure you do warm them about getting a insurance (sp?) once you leave home!